![]() ![]() Rowling’s “Harry Potter” series, Dementors are evil creatures that suck people’s souls out of their bodies, leaving them merely as shells of humans. They’ll do anything to win you over just so they can work you over. Manipulators always want something from you, and if you look back on your relationships with them, it’s all take, take, take, with little or no giving. They know what you like, what makes you happy, and what you think is funny, but the difference is that they use this information as part of a hidden agenda. They can be tricky to deal with because they treat you like a friend. Manipulators suck time and energy out of your life under the façade of friendship. Spending too much time around envious people is dangerous because they teach you to trivialize your own accomplishments. And let’s face it, there’s always someone out there who’s doing better if you look hard enough. This is because they measure their fortune against the world’s when they should be deriving their satisfaction from within. Even when something great happens to envious people, they don’t derive any satisfaction from it. To envious people, the grass is always greener somewhere else. You’re merely a tool used to build their self-esteem. This happens because as far as they’re concerned, there’s no point in having a real connection between them and anyone else. You can usually tell when you’re hanging around self-absorbed people because you start to feel completely alone. Self-absorbed people bring you down through the impassionate distance they maintain from other people. There’s an old saying: “Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.” It perfectly captures the toxicity of the victim, who chooses to suffer every time. ![]() They don’t see tough times as opportunities to learn and grow from instead, they see them as an out. Victims actively push away any personal responsibility by making every speed bump they encounter into an uncrossable mountain. But as time passes, you begin to realize that their “time of need” is all the time. Victims are tough to identify because you initially empathize with their problems. When push comes to shove though, temperamental people will use you as their emotional toilet and should be avoided at all costs. Temperamental people are tough to dump from your life because their lack of control over their emotions makes you feel bad for them. They will lash out at you and project their feelings onto you, all the while thinking that you’re the one causing their malaise. Some people have absolutely no control over their emotions. There are too many positives out there and too much to learn from interesting people to waste your time talking about the misfortune of others. It might be fun to peer into somebody else’s personal or professional faux pas at first, but over time, it gets tiring, makes you feel gross, and hurts other people. Gossipers derive pleasure from other people’s misfortunes. "Great minds discuss ideas, average ones discuss events, and small minds discuss people." – Eleanor Roosevelt ![]()
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